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Today marks two months since Jessica and I actually started dating; nearly three weeks since we became engaged.

Two months!

It feels somewhat ridiculous to be celebrating a two month anniversary at this point because, to us, it feels more like we’re celebrating six months, eight months, maybe a year! But, no, it’s only been two calendar months.

I think it’s so hard to believe because it feels like we’ve grown so much. We started out giddy and wide-eyed at the new level of our relationship that had suddenly unfolded before us — like something you’ve wanted for quite some time, and when you realize that, gosh, you’ve got it, you’re not really sure what to do with it. After four years of friendship, during most of which I never entertained the notion of dating her for more than 5 seconds at a time, we were thrilled to find that we’d both been feeling the same things about each other. So, we agree we like each other that way, now what? How do best friends actually date each other?

(I hope it’s alright that I’m retro-musing over this in public… Hmm…)

I think that when it’s right, you find the groove like we did, and suddenly you find yourself not in the relationship you’d always hoped for, but one that’s better than that. Better than what I’d been hoping to find while scrolling over countless online personals profiles, better than anything I’d known in the past. Better, even, than the relationship I would have imagined if I’d (warning: nerd analogy) got out some drafting paper and planned out the dream relationship myself.

Funny that I’ve always loved When Harry Met Sally, but never thought I’d get to be friends with someone that that could happen with, where over the past four years she was right in front of me. There were reasons that we were just friends over all of that time, though, and we’ve agreed that it’s a good thing that our lives took the paths they did, because we couldn’t have chosen a better way to come together. Any sooner and we might not have been ready for something like this. We’re somewhat different people now than we were two, three years ago.

It’s been an amazing two months, though. The best of my life, I dare say. Each week our relationship grows deeper than the last, and I’m excited to see what the future will bring. In the beginning we kept asking each other, “Is this really happening?” Now we can’t seem to stop having moments that make us wonder how we ever got to be so lucky.

As wonderful as all of this is, part of the reality is that we suddenly find ourselves very busy, scurrying around to register, get the wedding planned, and so on. Another reason it doesn’t seem like only two months is that each day seems more meaningful now. Before, I’d go home from work, fiddle with my PowerBook, watch Curb Your Enthusiasm, maybe think about a blog entry, and go to sleep. Essentially burning time.

Now, I go visit Jessica and we work on the wedding, go out to entertain ourselves, or just stay in. I’m considering bumping my cable service down to broadcast basic because I haven’t sat in my living room to watch TV in six weeks. Time flies when you’re having fun, and sometimes the days do seem shorter — our self-imposed curfews do seem to creep up on us, as she teaches middle school and has to get to bed early — but when I look back over the week, it’s amazing how much we’ve done, and how much more we’ve continued to grow.

Thank you, Jessica, and to all of our friends and family who have shared in this happy, happy time with us!

Posted: Thursday, October 6th, 2005 at 4:00 pm; Category: 1128; Comments feed: RSS 2.0.
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